Saturday, November 6, 2010

The Wrong Reasons for Getting into a Relationship

Do you feel that all of your relationships have perpetually gone down hill, even though it is not your fault? Then you should stop and think whether you are getting into a relationship for the wrong reasons. Getting into a relationship for the wrong reasons may well bring about a lot of heartache and potential future disaster.

A common mistake is getting into a relationship because you are lonely. Many women hang on to their boyfriends out of a sheer fear of loneliness, even if their boyfriends don’t treat them well, are abusive, immature, and disrespectful. A lot of women think that a bad boyfriend is better than no boyfriend at all. A lot of men think the same way.

However, this is a route leading to potential future disaster and is best avoided. If you can see yourself approaching someone just to have someone to enjoy the weekend with, then reproach yourself because this is a big mistake. Instead, get together with your single friends and spend time. Have a girls or guys night out.

A lot of people get into a relationship out of peer pressure. As more and more of your friends find boyfriends and girlfriends, and they get deeper into their relationships, some even getting engaged, you may often feel sad or depressed as to why you are not able to experience the pleasure they do. You may often feel that there is something wrong with you if you are still single.

There are even a few women (and men) who have an intense need to be like their friends so they often get into a relationship with the first person they see. However, there is nothing wrong with being single. There are many people who are single and happy, so find a hobby or something to engage yourself with.

Another common reason for people to rush into a relationship is they feel that they are missing something, and often they think that it is a male or female presence. However, as they soon find out, a boyfriend or girlfriend rarely solves the problem. The empty space that they used to feel usually still remains, maybe not physically, but mentally and emotionally.

The presence of these empty feelings may damage the relationship further down the line. When they enter a relationship, the man or woman will sooner or later detect these insecurities, and he or she will not likely want to take the relationship further. This leads both partners in that relationship to be hurt.

As you can see, getting into relationships for the wrong reasons may damage your relationships later on, causing many problems and a lot of heartache. When you do get into a relationship, do so not because you need to but because you want to. Getting into a relationship should never be done under any sort of duress.

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