Friday, March 25, 2011

Rushing into a Relationship

Are you trying to hurry getting into a relationship? If so then you are probably trying too hard. This tends to happen when you see that most of your friends have steady partners, when you feel it is time for you to get married, or when you feel lonely. You tend to rush into an affair, and you are willing to commit to someone despite that that person might not be the right match. This beckons future complications, not to mention even more heartbreak. So why do people behave in this manner, and is there a solution for this problem?

Experiencing the desire to be in a relationship is only natural. It is a biological occurrence and there is nothing unhealthy or immoral about it. In fact, it is an indispensable part of development. The problem creeps in when you enter a relationship to gratify some other yearnings that have no part in the actual relationship.

For example, problems at work, at home, or with your health may make you believe that having a companion is a solution. You may want to escape the situation you are currently in with someone else’s help and by seeking a happier life. This may eventually ruin your relationship because you are getting into it with a load of your own baggage.

You can avoid this in two ways. First, either solve your problems, or second, ensure that your partner supports you from the onset. You must be clear about everything to your future partner and ascertain their support.

Sometimes, failing to get into a relationship repeatedly can lower your self-confidence and make you feel inadequate or unimportant. You obviously want to feel good about yourself instead of feeling so miserable. This may make you plunge into the relationship without really thinking about it. It’s you needing a partner just to prove to yourself that you are capable of attaining one.

Therefore you may end up easily choosing the wrong person and subsequently you would just hurt both yourself as well as the other person. I know because I’ve been there. Thus you should never go into a relationship based on such reasons. Before beginning a relationship, carefully examine yourself, your requirements, and find out what kind of qualities you seek in a partner.

Only when you are sure of these aspects should you start looking for the right individual for yourself. This is the safest and surest way to attain bliss and happiness in love and in life.

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